Are you the one friend that most of your friends come to for advice on various scenarios? How often do you think to yourself after giving such great advice "Lord why can't i use this advice for my own situation"? Do you look at your own situation and realize that you would be so much less stressed or irritable if you heeded your own advice? What is it that you know what to do but don't?
Steam on the mirror. There's your answer! Have you noticed that when company is coming over you make your home nice and tidy; when alone you just let it be what it is? Same a this metaphorical mirror. When we place the mirror in front of someone when giving advice, we make sure the mirror is free of streaks, cracks and even steam. However when we face it on ourselves we steam it up. So therefore we don't see the situation clear enough to take our own advice.
Everyone has different types of steam. There's the "I can handle my situation" steam, "my situation is different from yours" steam, and the infamous "but I..." steam. The last can be the most detrimental because there are an infinite amount of EXCUSES we use behind it. We often don't want to face ourselves because we know subconsciously what we have to do we just CHOOSE not to deal with what our situation is. Yet, we continue to give all this advice and lack where we need....PRACTICING WHAT WE PREACH.
Your cycle will continue as long as you continue to look into a steamed mirror. Your situation is blurred, smeared and inconsistent. You will continue to push out knowledge, wisdom and happiness but your own situation will lack until you take something and clean your mirror. Allow yourself the opportunity to see your own situation clearly so you can have a clear vision of what you need to do. It will be hard to look at yourself and be 100% honest with yourself.
I spoke in my last post about sacrifice and making decisions for yourself. Your mirror is the first step in the process. How can you make a clear decision based on unclear information. I'm sure your attempt to help your friends in their situation is for the best but you have to have clear vision for yourself to give the best advice.
So from now on, make sure you mirror is clean before you give advice. Your message will come across so much clearer because you have living and giving by example. Wipe off the steam and see yourself and your situation for exactly what they are and keep it clean. A flawless life is impossible, but seeing a clear life only eliminates the option of making a decision with blurred, flawed and steamed insight.
Friday, March 7, 2014
Thursday, March 6, 2014
Sacrifice. "You v. Them"
Something that I've learned in my adult life is that sacrifice is a major determining factor in where we may end up. How many decisions have you made in your life that something had to be given up so something else could be done. I'm sure in your adult life that's an everyday occurrence. Go on this trip or pay my light bill? Be faithful to the love of my life or give this thot a chance to ruin all my happiness? Just examples...but hopefully you get my point.
In any decision a sacrifice has to be made and something has to be given up. I've realized that everyone, even your friends sometimes, don't realize when you are making a sacrifice for the reason of YOU. You have to decide what will be the better outcome for yourself and not others. In then end, others are always gonna sacrifice what they believe is best for them. Not saying you aren't to help others out, just don't make a decision that in the long run that will have you losing.
In a world where "winning" is the objective, to stay on the winning team means sacrificing and making your life work best for the person living it...YOU. We often make decisions by what we think others think of the decision, how someone will feel or what we think should occur. Those days for me are over; no more trying to work out the decisions of myself and others. You may lose somethings like friends, fun memories or love but in the end you will be able to look back and what you gained from the loss that probably wouldn't have added up to anything.
Next time you have two or more things to choose from, look at the situation and say to yourself "what's the sacrifice here"? Weigh out all options and choose what is best for yourself. Those who feel you are making the wrong decision are only wanting you to do what's in their interest. Everything you decide you do from here on out are for you because when you wake up and go to sleep you are the soul who has to live with every decision made.
In any decision a sacrifice has to be made and something has to be given up. I've realized that everyone, even your friends sometimes, don't realize when you are making a sacrifice for the reason of YOU. You have to decide what will be the better outcome for yourself and not others. In then end, others are always gonna sacrifice what they believe is best for them. Not saying you aren't to help others out, just don't make a decision that in the long run that will have you losing.
In a world where "winning" is the objective, to stay on the winning team means sacrificing and making your life work best for the person living it...YOU. We often make decisions by what we think others think of the decision, how someone will feel or what we think should occur. Those days for me are over; no more trying to work out the decisions of myself and others. You may lose somethings like friends, fun memories or love but in the end you will be able to look back and what you gained from the loss that probably wouldn't have added up to anything.
Next time you have two or more things to choose from, look at the situation and say to yourself "what's the sacrifice here"? Weigh out all options and choose what is best for yourself. Those who feel you are making the wrong decision are only wanting you to do what's in their interest. Everything you decide you do from here on out are for you because when you wake up and go to sleep you are the soul who has to live with every decision made.
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